Yes I realize Christmas has past...but this blogpost has been rambling around in my mind for quite some time and I just haven't taken the time to sit and write down my thought...
I recently heard that the singer/songwriter, Adele, is only able to write songs when she is unhappy or going through a difficult time in her life. Now that she is in a good relationship and a mother... she is unable to write the songs she is famous for therefore her career is at a standstill until something tragic happens.
How often do we live our lives this way... we are only "happy" when everyone around us is miserable and we take pleasure in the unhappiness of others We sit around focusing on the negative and complaining about the horrible hand that life has dealt. This is what I am going to term... Grinch or Scrooge Syndrome.
There are times in life that things happen... relationships fail... trust is broken... harsh words are spoken... accusations are made. We can't help when those things come our way but we can control how we respond. Are we going to attack back with harsh, unkindness or are we going to rise above the circumstances and keep movng forward?
Grinch and Scrooge would respond with unkindness... words and actions....attacking those around them that are trying to be nice and then complain that things are so awful. The glass is always half empty. They will belittle and put down others just so they don't feel as bad about them self.
Steps to not be a grinch or scrooge...not just during the holiday... but all year round...
1. Love intentionally with no conditions...people will hurt you...love them anyway!
2. Count your blessings... even if it is for waking up with a roof over your head
3. Be thankful for the people in your life... even if they are grinches or scrooges... they teach you how to rise above.
4. Give... even when you have little... you can still share
5. Forgive... let it go... you don't have to forget and keep allowing those things to happen in your life... set boundaries but forgive.
6. Positive, kind, uplifting words carry you much farther than negative, condescending words.
I don't want to be either one of these infamous Christmas characters... I want to be known for the one the season is truly all about.
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